Judging people is something that EVERYONE does. Don't try and be all high and mighty and tell everyone else that you don't. When you first see people, or first meet people, your brain will make little tiny judgments. What makes people judgmental or not is what we do with those judgments. Will you act on it, or will you ignore it and give the person an actual chance?
Now I'm not saying that if you have this feeling that this person is an axe murderer, and he's holding an axe and looks like he's about to kill you that you shouldn't show caution, but I think you get my point. Sometimes those kids who look totally mean, or preppy, or drama..y and you don't think you want anything to do with them could end up being your best friend if you gave them a chance.
My family is well known in my school as the "Technical People" when it comes to our drama program, and I joined high school totally up for throwing myself into my family legacy. Only... It kind of (excuse my language) sucked. Not going to go into why, but last year I was miserable, and going into my sophomore year I needed a change. Not wanted, I needed one if I wanted to get through this year without ending up in a mental hospital.
Okay.. So what's the problem? What does this have to do with judging people?
Well because I was in the Drama department.. I didn't really think much of the athletes. Unless it's track, most drama and sport people don't really mix at my school. But... in my school it seems to be Drama or Athletics. So I changed to sports. Even though I was.. yes afraid of most of the people there. I thought they would judge my lack of skill, and just think of me as the Ames in the wrong place. But guess what... that didn't happen.
I met some of the nicest people ever this year. And guess what.. these people actually cared about me. They didn't judge me instantly, or if they did, they actually gave me a chance. This year was the first year I could actually say I was happy to get up in the morning.
But judging is a two way street. (I know.. that phrase sounds wrong doesn't it... well anyways) I would be lying if I were to say that I went into my sports non-judgmental. No, I thought that the captains and stars of my teams would just be full of themselves and look down on everyone else. I am very happy to say that once I got past that, and actually gave people a chance to show me who they really are, I was really surprised. Sports at my school.. at least the ones I was involved in are not nearly as terrible as I thought they would be.
Once I got beyond my fear of messing up or someone hating me, I actually understood what it meant to be part of a team.
So guys, don't judge people, and don't judge things. Give people and new things (like clubs) a try, even if your first impression isn't the best. If you give them a second try, it might surprise you.
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